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What happens when you have a difficult conversation? Do you replay the scene in your head over and over again?
- In most cases, we either “fight (strike back) or flight (shut down).
- In either case, we tend to “replay” the situation, when there are unresolved/residual ill or hurt feelings.
- These feelings come from lack of forgiveness and the reaction/inaction of the other party.
- Forgiveness is necessary (See Matthew 18).
- Unless there is a victory report, replays are not of God.
Scripture to consider:
Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
and see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting (Psalm 139:23-24).
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.. (2 Corinthians 10:5).
Acknowledge the Lord in ALL your ways and He WILL direct your paths. (Proverbs 3:6)
Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. (Matthew 18:21-22).
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things (Philippians 4:8).
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer (Psalm 19:14).
BCU Family, replaying a conversation and mediating on what you would/should/could do or what they should have said or done differently is vain or empty and unacceptable to God as those thoughts do not line up with Philippians 4:8. We are ALWAYS welcome to go to Him to talk about it, give it to Him and LEAVE it there, Period. If we’re still talking about how hurt we are days, months, weeks, or years later, we haven’t forgiven the person or given the situation to God. Let’s talk more about this the next time we’re together.
What are your thoughts on what we’ve talked about? Are the mind replays a struggle? Let’s talk about it in the comments section!
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Mind replays are definitely a struggle, but I have gotten better with not engaging in them. When I realize that I am replaying an event, I remind myself that I could be making much better use of my time.
Yes and amen! The replay keeps us stuck so we don’t hear God at all, or we lean to our own understanding. Glory to God for Him blessing you to realize what NOT to focus on! Continuing to pray for you—please do the same for me!
As always, thanks so much for stopping by and commenting, Sis! It made my day!
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