YES, I’m READY! I think…

Hi ladies!

Again, I’m delighted at the responses posted here…thanks and please keep it up!

This week’s topic deals takes a little from some of the previous posts. Are you ready for God to bless you with a mate? Really ready? If so, how do you know? What about you, Blen, you ask? Ok, I’ll share my thoughts.

I believe I’m ready, for the most part. My hesitation is similar to Tamisha’s statement about God still working some things out in me. The thing is, I’m not sure if they need to be worked out before, or will be during the process of meeting whomever is God’s will for me.

I think I mentioned that although I can cook and do when I want, I don’t always do it…I’m cool with Lean Cuisine, General Mills and 1-800-Callpizza! This sounds trivial, but if dude is looking for meals everyday like in the movie “Soul Food”, we have issues out of the gate! 🙂

Same thing goes for spending money, while the Lord blesses me to be good steward most of the time (I should say He gives me the ability to be a good steward all the time, I just don’t always listen), I’m not sure I’m ok with my hubby “controlling” my spending. I was watching Wheel of Fortune during couples week, and as they amassed the cash, I thought, “would I really want to share $50 grand?” Not that I’d blow it, I just don’t want to be told how it should be spent. These may sound like small “get over it, Blen” issues, but the Bible says the little foxes spoil the vine (Song of Solomon 2:15).

I’m thinking because I’m older and more mature, I’d try to compromise on things, but that may take a miracle. In addition to praying about this, is there a way to prepare for these possible issues? Maybe love will just conquer all? Is anybody else “wrasseling” with similar thoughts?

Talk to us!

~Blen

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Thank you

Hi everyone,

I just want to thank you all SO much for the support, comments and feedback on your blog. Yes, it’s YOUR blog, I’m just the facilitator! :0D I am looking forward to more topic discussion, encouragement and blessings for all of you as we walk in this season triumphantly! May God bless you all in Jesus’ name!

Love,

~Blen

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Love on the dot com?

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Hi there ladies!

I picked up a WONDERFUL book last week entitled  The Young Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones.  This is a practical, scripturally based book of encouragement for women of ANY age who are awaiting the Lord to bless them with a husband, if that is His will. I plan to highlight some of the teachable points I received in future posts, but overall the book urged women to stop sitting around and do what God has called them to do while waiting!   One thing the book emphasized was not to go looking for a mate. We know what the Solomon said, “he that finds a wife, finds a good thing” (Proverbs 18:22 a).  So where do Internet matchmaking sites fit in?

I have a friend who confesses Christ, (yes a friend–this is not me :-)) I’ll call Lola. Lola tired of wading in the shallow in the dating pool and made a splash by hooking up with a dating site. In exchange for an ex-amount of  monthly dollars, a detailed profile and some time, she met a men that matched her personality, lifestyle, etc., and they dated for a while. Lola pretty much felt he was “the one”. Eventually the “sunshine and lollypop part” of the relationship faded, as Lola realized he wasn’t the person she thought (and he probably felt the same way).

My questions: (And I am not condemning… just trying to get an understanding and create dialogue) are we really waiting to “be found” when we sign up or even peruse Internet dating sites? Or are they “the new way” to date?

Are we trusting God to provide a husband the old-fashioned way, (a chance meeting in the grocery store aisle) or do we need to “put ourselves out there” by using these sites? Should we be “paying” for the blessings of God by signing up to “hubbynow.com”?

What about the examples of Ruth (Ruth 2-4) and Rebekah (Genesis 24)? Yes, there was no Internet back then, but is there something to be said of how God blessed them with mates?

I have to say, as tech-nerdy as I am, I’m old-school on this subject. After a LONG time of God working on me, I believe that He will set up the divine meeting His way and in His time. It seemed that anytime I “placed” myself somewhere or went with the hopes of “him” being at the gathering, I was disappointed. The Lord finally got me to the mindset of going places to be a blessing to people, and not look for a blessing.  Easy all the time? No. But keeping my heart from unneeded heartache is worth it.

I would love to hear your thoughts….

~Blen

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