Declaring independence from “foolishness”

This is a post from a couple of years back, yet is STILL relevant. Check it out!

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Hey family!

It’s been another minute, I’ve been a little busy running, but it’s all good. It’s wonderful to be busy!! Ladies, I wanted to share a recent experience or maybe test that echoes the importance of prayer, and exercising wisdom so your are free from “foolishmess”.

I was at a conference at a hotel where a handsome guy from across the aisle and I made eye contact and smiled. Very nice. After the conference let out, as I went to run an errand, we ran into each other. He very politely asked what I was doing later, where I was going to eat and could he “holla at me” (hmm) after my errand. As I was going, the Lord gave me the foresight to pray before I talked to this guy. I told the Lord is this was going to be frippery, he needed to just go away.

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A few of my favorite things (Hair related)

Helllooooo family!!!!

I hope all is well with you–with the help of the Lord, I am FINALLY starting to get things in my life organized so I can start writing again (that’s a whole OTHER post :-)–Thanks for your prayers!

Let’s get this kicked off with what’s going on in the hair department. I’ve been natural about 3 years now and while my hair has grown a bit (you can’t tell since it shrinks up so much–ah, well), my goal is not waist-length hair. Growth is a blessing mind you, but I just want my hair to be healthy, soft, moisturized (a challenge with my high/low porosity hair) and look nice. I love it and am grateful when people ask me about my hair–that’s saying something! I think if you go Natural, you should represent well! Ok, on with the info!

Pre-poo: (or before shampoo 😃)

1) Shea Moisture Deep Treatment–this also doubles as a very moisturizing styler! (Thanks, Curlygirl 24) I refreshed my hair with it and loved the results–gotta love a dual purpose product! I just slather, don a shower cap for a bit a rinse out.

Henna:

I LOVE Henna! Right now, I order from Mehandi.com. I’ve tried it a few times already and try to do that every 4-6 weeks or so. It’s a little labor intensive, but I think it made a difference in the strength of my hair. For those who aren’t familiar, Henna is like a natural protein treatment that can add strength, sheen, and help loosen curls while adding a slight “stain” to your hair (your hair will have BARELY-there reddish undertone in the sun and any gray hair will take on reddish color as well). The more you Henna, the stronger your hair becomes!

I make a cup of tea (like a red zinger) and let it cool slightly. In a glass or plastic bowl, I mix the tea and Henna powder into a yogurt consistency and let it sit covered at room temperature overnight.

Before I apply to Henna to freshly shampooed (and sometimes not) sectioned hair, I add a little honey to the mix (adds moisture and makes the Henna rinse out a lot easier) and apply the paste to every strand of hair. Cover hair in plastic wrap, and chill out for at least two hours. I wash it out thoroughly with water and ” shampoo” with conditioner. Then I follow-up with a moisturizing conditioner for about an hour or so. Once that’s rinsed, I’m left with softer, shinier tinted hair.

“Shampoo”:
Terressentials Pure Mud Wash

I love this stuff. This non-sudsing clay-based wash cleanses, defines and moisturizes my curls wonderfully. I’m sure you could skip the conditioner, but I do it out of habit. It’s a bit pricey, but you do not have to use much. Naptural85 shows you how.

Moisturizing Conditioners:

She Scent it–Avocado Rinse or Honey Wash.
There’s something about these condishes that make my hair soft, moisturized and shiny. Plus they are affordable. She has sales a few times a year.

For protein, I like the Okra Reconditioner and use it almost every shampoo. It strengthens my hair, yet doesn’t make it hard or dry. I follow it up or use it with one of the aforementioned condishes.

Marie Dean 3 in 1 Illipe Condish–I bought a small one of these on sale and I am upset I didn’t get a bigger one! That yummyness melted my tresses so wonderfully! Plus Adriene is a pleasure to speak with–love that! I hope to reup on an upcoming sale.

Bask Y.A.M. Nectar–This is one of the best moisturizers I have used to date. My hair likes honey, so since that’s the base, it drinks it in. This is pricey as well, but worth it. If a good sale comes along, I may reup. In the meantime, I can use the She Scent it.

Stylers/Leave in

I have learned that wash and go’s (well wash, style and go’s) with gel are my friend. Therefore, Uncle Funky’s Daughter Curly Magic (CM) is my go-to styler. I use it on soaking wet hair for shiny, moisturized curls for days. I usually refresh it with a little water or a bit of her Midnite Train.

UPDATE: It’s a sad day in my life, ladies…UFDCM has undergone some changes that include a hefty dose of glycerin to an otherwise perfect gel. While glycerin can be a wonderful humectant, in low dew points, it can dry hair out and in high humidity, it can “pouf” you hair and have you lose your curl definition (for me anyway). Some curlies stay close to the dew points and change their products accordingly. That’s a little labor intensive for me–I’d rather be able to use a product pretty much year-round. So…I’m on the hunt for a new styler (insert sigh).

I have tried Kinky Curly Knot Today (leave in) and Kinky Curly Curling Custard or KCCC (styler gel) and while I’m not crazy about digging my hand in  jar (UFD has a pump), I have gotten GREAT results! I am hopeful this will end my quest for the perfect gel–we’ll see. I have used it with this FABULOUS moisturizer called Curl Prep Sweet Buttah, and right now, I am loving on my hair! (Pic at the end of this post).

I use my CM and the KCCC with my Juicy Naturalista Leave-In.  This powerhouse adds shine, seals in the moisture and gives additional softness. I don’t need any extra oils, finishers or anything else. In addition, Padrica (owner) is a super sweetie–always helpful and has gone over and beyond duty to help. Love her!

And that, ladies, about sums it up. I do have some other products to try out, I just get so cozy in my routine, it’s hard for me to go outside of it. If you have questions about anything, please feel free to ask.

Thanks for reading and God bless you!

 

Groovy Green Smoothies (again)

Hey family,

If you’re like me, you strapped on the feedbag on Thanksgiving..

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and it’s been on ever since! As a result and since 2014 is fast approaching, you may be aflutter about eating better. Let’s make things easy, shall we?

In between the rolls, cakes and other assorted goodies, I’ve still been consuming my green smoothies. As a reminder, these nutrient-dense treats help to take the edge off the hunger and nourish you at the same time. It’s an easy habit to begin and you’ll actually start craving them once you start. Here’s a cool infographic to get your started..I use Almond Milk as my base, but you can use whatever works best for you. Experiment and enjoy!

Here’s to a healthier 2014!

Love,

Blen

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Treasure hunt…

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Hey family!

For the second time in as many years, the local and national news (http://www.myfoxtampabay.com/story/24059298/2013/11/25/black-friday-shoppers-already-camped-out) have highlighted “Black Friday” shoppers who are already camped out in parking lots awaiting for all the bargains merchants are offering. While I am certainly NOT against sales, saving money, purchasing things you need or even desire, I wonder a couple of things.

First, what message does this send our families and children? Thanksgiving is traditionally a special day set aside (and in addition to all the other 364 days we give thanks) for families to come together, share a meal and count the blessings God gives us. While I suppose that can be done in a pop-up tent in a parking lot, is the specialness of that time dismissed by rushing the security guard who opens the door? Trampling the lady who steps in front of you? Pouting and cussing the clerk if they sell out of the $200 56 inch flat screen television before you get one? Are we giving God thanks while loading the cart? Are we going into debt trying to lay up our treasures on earth?

Second and more importantly, how does God feel about this? Again, while there is no sin in getting a bargain (we need to be good stewards), are we putting material gain over family time? In 5 years, Lord will, is getting the Wii more important than sitting around the table and recanting stories from when Junebug and Haskell were little? Is there any value left in building relationships, friendships or just enjoying company of other people? What about just thanking God for life, health, strength, food and whatever He gives us richly to enjoy? When I was a child, my siblings were just content to stuff ourselves and take a nap!

Bottom line: Yes, I realize this is America and we can choose to celebrate holidays anyway we choose. If we think about it, every holiday that comes around is focused on the deal of the day, rather than God or even a family aspect, which God created. And if we are not careful, we can get sucked in to believing that happiness is just a purchase away.

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:19-21).

What we value the most in our hearts comes out of our mouths and actions. As the coming of Christ comes closer, my prayer is that The Lord will be reflected in our speech and actions over the upcoming holidays and all year round!

God bless you and your family this Thanksgiving and always!

Love,

Blen

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