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Table for….one

A perfect ending for a solo dinner

Hi everyone!

I mentioned in a previous post I’m reading a book called “The Young Lady in Waiting” (Kendall & Jones, 2008), that gives a biblical perspective and encouragement to those in God’s waiting room. A question was posed to a woman who was single after ten years out of college: “what helps you to be so satisfied as a single woman?” She responded, ” a full place setting”. What?!!

Evidently, this woman had real china, crystal and silverware she had
been saving for “him” while eating off paper plates. She said the Lord showed her she didn’t have to wait for the mate to bring beauty into her world, so she began eating off the china and drinking out of that fine crystal. A while later, she unknowingly sat in front of her future in-laws at church, met their son and eventually got married. While she now has someone to share the china with, her satisfaction didn’t come from the hubby– it was already there through Christ.

I thought that was a great story…it got me to thinking what keeps me satisfied. Of course, being saved and complete in Christ tops the chart. Additionally though, I think a better healthier perspective on this season keeps me. Although I am a card-carrying member of the “couch potato club”, I do like to travel when I can–locally as well as in the United States.

While traveling with someone is fun, I can’t be waiting around for “him” to take me! So I took a couple of trips last month for fun and enjoyed it! I even got some folks to take some pics of me to commemorate the occasion. I even (gulp)… dined in restaurants…..alone! Yes, it was a little weird for a minute, but I relaxed and enjoyed it. It helps develop your social skills, opens you up to meet new people, learn other things, witness for Christ and perhaps bless someone else. And, like the lady in the story, you could meet your mate!

So, I ask you, what keeps you satisfied as a single? And if you aren’t there yet (that’s ok— sometimes it’s a process) what could you start doing with God’s help to get there?

Kendall, Jackie & Jones, Debby. (2008). The Young Lady in Waiting: Developing the Heart of a Princess. ISBN 076842657X.

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  1. Tabitha says

    Sis Blenda, Thank you for your blog! I am a firm believer in living life to the fullest. God wants us to make the most out of whatever season we are in. I’m not sure I would have accomplished some of the things I have if I were married, and taking care of a family. Being single provides me the opportunity to focus on God and myself. I get to spoil me!…and boy is it fun! I started going out to breakfast alone, traveling alone, and shopping alone. I can admit, being alone took some getting use. I’ve learned how to make ME happy. I’ve learned how to take care of me. I’ve learned how to love me and most importantly how to love Christ. (that’s ongoing) A husband or wife should add to your life. I think I’m most attractive when I’m enjoying Jesus and enjoying life. That kind of attraction is magnetic. Magnetic to attracting friends and possibly the salt to your pepper, the peanut butter to your jelly, or the cake to your ice cream! 🙂 So ladies, take out your fine China and enjoy Jesus! Enjoy life!

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    • blenblogs says

      Hey Tabitha!

      Thanks so much for stopping by and your wonderful comments! I especially LOVED:
      “….I’ve learned how to make ME happy. I’ve learned how to take care of me. I’ve learned how to love me and most importantly how to love Christ. (that’s ongoing) A husband or wife should add to your life. I think I’m most attractive when I’m enjoying Jesus and enjoying life. That kind of attraction is magnetic. Magnetic to attracting friends and possibly the salt to your pepper, the peanut butter to your jelly, or the cake to your ice cream!”….

      Tabitha, if I could get that on a T-shirt, I would! 🙂 But you recognizing and more importantly living that out is a blessing from God. Your words are a blessing and an encouragement to me and the blog readers. I’m sure your “salt” is enroute, Sister!!! God bless you!!!!

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  2. Michelle says

    Turning the big 40 has certainly changed me. I have evolved into a beautiful flower, if I must say. :-). I have learned to live my life not according to how others would want me to but how I want. I have grown closer to God and fully trust in him to provide all my needs. I have come to understand and accept that God will not withhold his best from me. Therefore I walk with the confidence and assurance that the best is yet to come. In the meanwhile I will actively wait on God. That is what keeps me satisfied as a single saved sister!

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    • blenblogs says

      Hi Michelle! Thanks so much for your comments! I LOVE how you said you’ve evolved into a beautiful flower!!!! There’s something about age (spiritual and natural) that brings a wisdom and beauty to women of God. I also agree that God does not withhold His best from us. We often sabotage our own blessings by moving too fast (check for that in an upcoming post). Michelle, your words of encouragement CERTAINLY blessed me and as I’m sure it had others. Y’all heard it here first–walk in confidence and wait actively on God! AMEN!!!!!

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